
Which of the Six Types Are You? With Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel
Do you approach your friendships, your work, or the pain in your life more as the orphan, the stranger, or the widow?
This is another episode we would pay you to listen to if we could.
Do you approach your friendships, your work, or the pain in your life more as the orphan, the stranger, or the widow?
Don’t know what that means? We didn’t either until we read “Redeeming Heartache” and then talked with the brilliant psychologist, Dr. Dan Allender, and to our new wise friend, author and therapist Cathy Loerzel.
Dan and Cathy helped us understand each of these approaches to the world, and invited us to live redeemed as a priest, prophet, or king and queen.
Together we explore:
What if I don’t think I’ve ever had trauma? Do I still need to do heart work?
Why do I need to look back at my past? My present is hard enough.
Why do I act this way in challenging situations?
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Highlights
“To be able to rest and receive delight and have gratitude, you need to be able to be open to what other people can offer you…. So if you’re never in that place of being able to receive that with an open, trusting heart, then you’re always…coiled up and ready for the place that you’re gonna be harmed next. So it keeps you from being able to receive surprise and delight and play because you’re always, always, always looking around the corner.” -Cathy Loerzel
“The reality is we all bear some of the effects of the Fall, and that’s what we’re calling trauma.” -Dan Allender
“You can’t heal the present without going back to the past.” –Cathy Loerzel
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Want more of these two? Go read their book, Redeeming Heartache!
Check out the Allender Center, which both Dan and Cathy are a part of founding and leading!
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